Society & Family

Small vs Large Families

The question
Some people prefer to have small families with only one or two children, while others believe large families are better. To what extent do you agree that small families are preferable?

Band 9 model answer

Decisions about family size vary enormously, with some couples deliberately opting for just one child and others happily welcoming many. While large families undoubtedly have their charms, I largely agree that smaller families are preferable under contemporary conditions, chiefly for reasons of resources and opportunity.

The strongest argument for a small family concerns the quality of care that each individual child receives. With fewer children to provide for, parents can devote far more time, attention and money to each one, funding better education, enrichment activities and healthcare than would otherwise be affordable. A child in a compact household is less likely to compete fiercely for affection or to be quietly overlooked, and the family's finances are correspondingly less stretched. Given the considerable cost of raising a child all the way to adulthood, a degree of restraint here is often the wiser and kinder course.

That said, I would not dismiss the genuine merits of larger families lightly. Growing up among several siblings teaches cooperation, negotiation and resilience, and offers a built-in network of lifelong companionship and support. Children from big families frequently learn to share, compromise and resolve conflict from a very early age. These are real social benefits that an only child may well miss, which is precisely why my agreement with the small-family view is qualified rather than absolute.

In conclusion, while large families undeniably cultivate valuable interpersonal skills, the practical advantages of smaller families, and particularly the ability to invest fully in each child, tend to predominate in today's world. I therefore agree, with some reservations, that a smaller family is generally preferable, though the right size ultimately depends on each couple's circumstances and values.

Examiner’s notes

Power words for this topic

sibling
a brother or sister
In a sentenceChildren with many siblings often learn to share early.
only child
a child with no brothers or sisters
In a sentenceAn only child may receive more parental attention.
family size
the number of children in a household
In a sentenceFamily size has fallen steadily in wealthy nations.
resilience
the capacity to recover from difficulties
In a sentenceLarge families can foster resilience through constant negotiation.